At 17 years old, I remember describing my ideal man at a sleepover with my girlfriends. Dark, mysterious, face fur, perhaps a bit older than myself. I rounded up this description by adding: “He’ll cook too! Or a chef! I love food!” My friends responded with enthusiastic nods and approval.
Two years later, I met my (now) husband. 15 years my senior, he was mysterious, mature and I think I fell for him pretty much straight away. After becoming friends, I then found out he was a qualified chef. He ticked every box.
Now, 2 years into our marriage, 7 years into our relationship, I know my husband very well. I have come to terms with the late nights, unsociable hours, his absence on Christmas Day and New Year’s Eve. I understand what comes with being a chef.
Even now, when I meet people who don’t know my husband, and I let slip that he’s a chef. I get looks of approval, that twinkle in a woman’s eye, the silent (and sometimes not) look that says it all; “I bet you get some good meals, I bet it’s lovely being married to a chef!”
Of course it is, I love my husband.
Chef by day, Pirate by night
But his job has its moments!
- I always make alternative plans for Christmas Dinner or I’d be spending the day alone.
- “like ships in the night” the hours are long and days off are few
- When he says, he’s leaving in the next 10 minutes, he really means after an hour
- Meals will go cold, so I don’t bother cooking a meal for him until he’s 20 minutes away.
- Eating out is a whole new experience – “I coulda made that better myself” I hear this a lot.
- Cooking at home isn’t as fun. I used to enjoy cooking but when I cook for my husband (and he’s at home) he stands near me watching, or asking me questions. It’s better for my state of mind and his physical wellbeing for him to just do the cooking.
- He buys meat no one would normally buy! Pig’s heart. I felt like I’d walked in Dr Lecter’s kitchen.
Pig’s Heart – Cianti anyone?
- Twice a week there is a mountain of aprons that need to go on a boil wash and always end up knotted together by their ties! It’s like when you get a necklace knotted, only more infuriating!
- My husband smells like food, all the time. Which sounds great; you’re thinking pies, pizza, cake. No- more like onions, garlic, salmon, steak/smokehouse.
- He feeds me.
- I realised food is exciting, like foreplay.
- He knows all the good places to eat.
- I have learned to try new things! Since being with him I have tried: Sushi, black pudding, scallops, saffron, steak cooked blue.
- Steak, sausage and stilton wraps – I questioned it too, but it’s a taste sensation!
- There are perks – I have played Taste Tester for items on new menus
- I have been able to order (slightly) off menu, when he’s cooking
- When he tells me about his day, I can drool on cue.
- I know how to make a Roux and a Béchamel sauce.
- Our dog eats really well.
Now I think about it… I’m thankful I’m a Chef’s wife.
Hubs works incredibly hard, and makes some amazing food. He’s currently running the kitchen at a Steakhouse in Caistor. Here, binge on some Food Porn…
Trio of Burgers (venison, beef&chorizo, breaded chicken)
Braised Pork with crackling & Black Pudding Bon Bons
Trio of Fish (tempura prawn, smoked haddock fishcake, smoked salmon pate)
10oz Steak Philly Burger
Mulled Wine poached Pear
Smoked Haddock Chowder